Slow cooking in relationships

Faire de la bonne cuisine demande un certain temps.
Si on vous fait attendre, c'est pour mieux vous servir, et vous plaire.
Good cooking takes time.
If you are made to wait, it is to serve you better, and to please you.
Menu of Restaurant Antoine, New Orleans

I read this when I came across The mythical man-month which was a book written several years back on managing large scale software development. Is this applicable to relationships too?

I have been wondering how critical attraction between two people needs to be. Chemistry, connection... I keep trying to understand - experientally as well as intellectually. The concept seem to lie farther and farther. Maybe, the less I try to figure it out, the less I will struggle. Maybe I will get it. Wishful thinking! Defeatist resignation! Regardless, the question is how about those relationships that grow over time. People say that's the way trust works. Is trust more important than chemistry? Does one feed into the other? Do some people fare better than the others? Can I learn? I don't know. Looks so much fuzzier.

I wish I get attracted to someone soon. I would let the "slow cooking" take its time to role out a solid relationship. Then, I guess I will have posterity to back up and prove that I fulfilled in delivering chemistry, connection, and what not. As of now, it simply does not exisit.