During my undergrad existence I remember - to get a to get a blind date you really had to be a stud! One had to belong to a different league altogether . With a geeky look, nerdy characteristics, and paunchy belly, I was located in a different dating planet. Fast forward a dozen years and things have become quite the opposite. With Shaadi.com, match.com, eharmony.com, etc., turning out to be the most prominent (or only) platform to meet someone, blind dates are becoming the rightful way to keep my life going on tracks to take me somewhere. The more I get used to this concept, as alien as it may be, I can't think much different from what I feel in an arranged marriage. Can anyone tell me what's the difference? Even if the platform is a podium to get introduced and then catapault that inital meeting into a full blown romantic relationship - preferably culminating in a marriage, I can't quite agree it is same as a typical "love marriage."
Relationship starting off through any of these platforms do not have an organic seeding. You start off sipping through the vanilla latte in Starbucks because knowing fully that you are tolerating each other because you want to get married - and not necessarily you just want to hang out - with no strings attached - without the need to go anywhere, accomplish anything. How different is then such a meeting from those engineered by parents in initial stages of arranged marriage. Looks like the dynamics that propel an arranged marriage discussion runs these "blind dates" too. A hit or miss. To get a second date requires a stronger doze of initial chemistry which is in quite contrast to the way typically people fall in love. More often than not, love strikes in unexpected quarters and worse, it may not strike in the first meeting. How many times, I have fallen in love with a person, after knowing her all too well, with whom I practically dont remember the very first meeting. But once I am in it - I am attracted, not to mention, waltzing in the conversation with her.
So is chemistry over-rated? How about just giving it a shot anyway? Or, if it's just that speck of attraction - a huntch that - she may be the one. Who knows what works?
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These dating sites do provide a great platform for all singles. Our lives are more beautiful since we can make more friends there. I have read a success story from Millionairematch.com and found the author of this story was a friend of my mother's. I couldn't believe this at first until my mother confirmed with me later.
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