"If you love something, set it free. If it comes backto you, it's yours. If it doesn't, it never was. We donot possess anything in this world, least of all otherpeople. We only imagine that we do. Our friends, our lovers, our spouses, even our children are not ours;they belong only to themselves. Possessive and controlling friendships and relationships can be asharmful as neglect."
After I broke up my relationship, I heard this cliche from so many people that I finally decided to throw up - up here. Do I really believe this? Now, there may be someone who may not have any other choice but to let go and his heart burns like wild fire, he or she needs a real terse explanation to soothe those burning veins. If that's so - that's a totally different topic of conversation. But hell no! Not me! I dont believe this. At least my heart does not believe in let the bird fly away and it may return. So what do I believe? Sticking to the same pattern - I am more inclined to believing a bumper sticker that I saw once - ""If you love something, set it free. If it comes backto you, it's yours. If it doesn't, find it and bust it!" That's more of my kinda stuff. Yeah! But let's be real here - who really cares ?
Relationships and friendships etc. - things that we value so much in life are all so transient. A snapshot in time. So why is it so hard to let go of people? Let's change tracks a little bit and take a more morbid perspective. Every morning we hear so many accidents in the interstate. How many of those killed knew that they wont go back? Or, say how many of their relatives and loved ones knew that they are not going to come back? And for a period I too had to ask myself - why me? Do I deserve this? Why is life so uncertain? I believe all of us and all of our ex-es too feel the same way. May be someday I will figure this out. But that's not the right question to ask. The right question to ask and live with - given the shit that has happened to me how can I make the best out of the rest? I wish I never get an answer to this. Really. For as I have started to discover that the rest is bigger, richer and brighter than what I earlier thought. And this whole range of bright possibilities were eclipsed by something that I was latching onto so dearly.
Let's end with another cliche - now - "Life is about living with the right questions and not about the right answers." Yes, and when the day comes that I find these answers - I will know that my time is up.
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